{"id":24127,"date":"2019-02-23T00:00:11","date_gmt":"2019-02-23T00:00:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/flashpacknew.wpengine.com\/?p=24127"},"modified":"2023-05-10T13:54:01","modified_gmt":"2023-05-10T12:54:01","slug":"turning-40-midlife-crisis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/solo\/wellness\/turning-40-midlife-crisis\/","title":{"rendered":"Turning 40 and embracing a midlife crisis changed my life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><em>For Andrew Dickens, turning 40 was a wake-up call. He thinks we should all embrace the midlife crisis<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Life begins at 40! Try telling that to someone from the 15th century. If they hit 40, they\u2019d be looking over their shoulder for an unearthly scythe held by a guy who always looks slim in black. For them, the phrase would have been \u2018death stalks at 40, if you make it that far\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Luckily, with a fair wind and a little sense, people today have a considerably longer life expectancy: 71.5 years, globally, with a few years extra if you\u2019re born in a developed country, and some bonus time if you\u2019re a woman.<\/p>\n<p>So, while it\u2019s patently untrue that life begins at 40, it\u2019s true that we have a lot more time after hitting that mark. There&#8217;s no race to tick the bucket list, less need to fear the Reaper. This, though, can lead to complacency and procrastination: I don\u2019t need to <a href=\"\/adventure-trips\/pure-peru-solo-travel-group\/\">hike the Inca trail<\/a> now just because I\u2019m 40. I can leave it to 45. Or 50. 60? Yeah. Or maybe 90, using my stem-cell-regenerated super-anatomy.<\/p>\n<p>More years equals more time to do stuff. Makes sense, right? WRONG!<\/p>\n<h3>The wake-up call<\/h3>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/jEG0FkCUI9\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/jEG0FkCUI9\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">56 (very hilly) kilometres later. The medal doubles up as a bottle opener, by the way.<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/andrewdickens\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Andrew Dickens<\/a> (@andrewdickens) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2014-01-12T09:42:19+00:00\">Jan 12, 2014 at 1:42am PST<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t care what the latest buzz phrase is. 60 is not the new 40 and 40 is not the new adolescence. 40 is still, statistically, middle-aged. Dress it up in a hoody and trainers if you like, but it\u2019s got grey hairs and longer recovery times. We may be healthier, we may <i>feel<\/i> younger &#8211; we probably act it &#8211; but we are <i>not <\/i>younger. If you need a trigger to get things done in your life, this should be it.<\/p>\n<p>It certainly was for me.<\/p>\n<p>When I saw 40 approaching unstoppably across the hills of time, it was a call to action. I\u2019ve written here and elsewhere about my experiences with anxiety and depression and &#8211; let\u2019s be honest &#8211; the subject of mental health is rarely a carnival of positivity. However, this time two of the crappier symptoms combined to produce a spectacular explosion of me doing stuff.<\/p>\n<p>Symptom one: the lethargy, anxiety and self-esteem issues I\u2019d had for much of my life, from teens to thirties. This, most of the time,\u00a0has prevented me from doing things, always too nervous or too knackered.<\/p>\n<p>Symptom two: a fear of mortality (particularly potent for me, as a godless man). This is my mortality, plus that of loved ones, the human race, or cute animals on nature programmes.<\/p>\n<p>Individually, these two things are sh*tty. But then they collided, causing a thought process along the lines of: \u201cI haven\u2019t done as much as I should have and now I\u2019m even closer to extinction.\u201d You don\u2019t need to be mad to have a midlife crisis, but it helps. (Mugs, posters and t-shirts available on request.<\/p>\n<h3>Midlife crisis? Yes, please!<\/h3>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BeBh9dBHEzy\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BeBh9dBHEzy\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Trying hard not to slide backwards<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/andrewdickens\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Andrew Dickens<\/a> (@andrewdickens) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2018-01-16T20:34:03+00:00\">Jan 16, 2018 at 12:34pm PST<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I embraced that phrase: midlife crisis. It\u2019s mid-life and, if not quite a crisis, it\u2019s a pressing matter. So, I did things that I wish I\u2019d done earlier, things I\u2019d planned to do later, and things I didn\u2019t even consider doing before, but when the opportunity came up to do them, I decided my default response would be to say yes. Yes, yes, yes (with the occasional no &#8211; I\u2019m not <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/Yes-Man-Danny-Wallace\/dp\/0091896746\">Danny Wallace<\/a>).<\/p>\n<p>I took my first skiing holiday &#8211; and, subsequently, learned to ski. I got my motorbike licence. I quit my job to go freelance. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortlist.com\/style\/plan-a-wedding-like-a-boss\/34872\">I got married<\/a>, which also involved proposing. I bought a house. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/brewstercockapoo\/\">I got a dog<\/a>. I slept in a capsule hotel. <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/solo\/travel\/communal-bathing-japan-sento-onsen\/\">I got naked in public places.<\/a> I tried surfing (less successful than skiing, but still). I ran a half-marathon. Then I ran a full marathon. Then I ran an ultra-marathon.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s more.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BG9iDDgiUET\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BG9iDDgiUET\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">CBT passed. Next stop: Brighton Beach.<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/andrewdickens\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Andrew Dickens<\/a> (@andrewdickens) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2016-06-22T15:15:48+00:00\">Jun 22, 2016 at 8:15am PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I got my eyes lasered. I took a horse-riding lesson. <a href=\"\/adventure-trips\/south-africa-garden-route\/\">I climbed a couple of mountains.<\/a> I bought a guitar (I admit, as yet unplayed). I grew a moustache and not for Movember. I took up rambling. I sang with a band. I went to as many countries as I possibly could. I <a href=\"http:\/\/www.worldrecordacademy.com\/food\/longest_cheesesteak_Philadelphia_breaks_Guinness_World_Records_record_215511.html\">broke a world record<\/a>. <a href=\"\/adventure-trips\/kerala-india-small-group-adventure-solo-travellers\/\">I took up meditation and yoga<\/a> (both of which have been, temporarily, put down again). I took part in <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/gNhiGMjja3E\">a rap battle<\/a>. I\u2019ve probably missed something &#8211; I should make a proper list &#8211; but all this happened in the last five years.<\/p>\n<p>There are still things I want to do, of course, and the list is growing. Unpredictable opportunities will arise and I\u2019ll say yes. And the best bit of all: long term, this new positive attitude became a self-fulfilling prophecy, helping eases those mental health problems. The symptom is now a remedy.<\/p>\n<h3>Seize the peony<\/h3>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/2LQpl-CUEA\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/2LQpl-CUEA\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Finally got my 40th birthday present from @flynndogmillionaire &#8211; many thanks to her, @kestermatsumoto and @redbunnytattoo<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/andrewdickens\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Andrew Dickens<\/a> (@andrewdickens) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2015-05-02T10:19:26+00:00\">May 2, 2015 at 3:19am PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I even got a tattoo &#8211; in Tokyo &#8211; of a peony on my left forearm when I was 40. One of the approximately 732 meanings of the peony in tattoo culture is the equivalent of <i>carpe diem<\/i>, seize the day, the moment. It\u2019s there to remind me not to be a wuss, to say yes, to worry less. Positive thoughts, man.<\/p>\n<p>It wasn\u2019t my first tattoo. That came when I was 19. But it was my first since then and the first on public display, because before then I\u2019d been worried, uncertain of what I wanted and other people\u2019s reactions. It has since been joined by two more splendid Japanese tattoos on my right forearm: a snake and a group of Sakuras (cherry blossoms), each with its own meaning. Unhidden. Proud. Excellent conversation starters, popular with small children.<\/p>\n<p>If I feel doubt about whether I should say yes to something, I look at the peony. It\u2019s all very simple.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t need a purple flower on your arm, though, <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/solo\/travel\/10-life-lessons-to-excel-in-your-40s\/\">just do it<\/a>. Saying yes is simple. Not saying \u201cmaybe,\u201d \u201clater\u201d or \u201cnot yet\u201d is simple. Worrying about <i>what<\/i> to say is painful, though. I still do that sometimes and it takes years off.<\/p>\n<p>And you don\u2019t want to take any years off, because none of us is getting any younger.<\/p>\n<h3>Three life-changing trips you should say yes to<\/h3>\n<p><strong>Say yes to the great outdoors of Norway<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-15378\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Norway-Flash-Pack-1024x637.jpg\" alt=\"Norway Flash Pack\" width=\"1980\" height=\"1233\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Welcome to the land of ice and snow. And fish. And fjords. And glaciers. Basically, loads of stuff. This four-night trip includes a generous serving of Nordic exhilaration, including sea-kayaking, ice-caving, cliff-climbing, RIB boating. It also includes a generous serving of Norwegian cuisine and, of course, some of the world&#8217;s most mind-blowing scenery.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/destinations\/norway\/\">I&#8217;m saying YES<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Say yes to adventure in Borneo<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-15075\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Borneo-adventure-07-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"paddling on a boat\" width=\"1980\" height=\"1114\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you fancy sweating out the muck of city life and also having your eyes soothed by natural beauty, then sign up for this incredible trip to Borneo. Posh hotels are balanced out by jungle camps, kayaking through rapids and caving is countered by spotting\u00a0orangutans and sipping cocktails on a beach by the South China Sea.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/destinations\/borneo\/\">I&#8217;m saying YES<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Say yes to sensory stimulation in Argentina<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-13338\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Argentina_Patagonia_man-1024x658.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1980\" height=\"1273\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ve got five senses (six, if you&#8217;re lucky), so use them. 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