{"id":14266,"date":"2018-10-17T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-10-16T23:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/flashpack.preview.uk.com\/2018\/10\/17\/how-to-make-new-friends-in-one-week-with-seven-solo-challenges\/"},"modified":"2023-03-17T12:26:20","modified_gmt":"2023-03-17T12:26:20","slug":"make-new-friends-solo-challenges","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/solo\/relationships\/make-new-friends-solo-challenges\/","title":{"rendered":"How to make new friends in one week, with seven solo challenges"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When your mum utters the words, \u201cDo you think you should maybe find some new friends?\u201d, I think you can be forgiven for having somewhat of a confidence crisis!<\/p>\n<p>She had me \u2018trapped\u2019, cruising down the M6 in our beloved VW camper van and the rogue question seemed to have come from nowhere.<\/p>\n<p>After I proceeded to list a pretty decent number of friends who are, in fact, living very similar lives to me, Mum conceded that maybe her question was misplaced.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BnBRHGuAlK5\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BnBRHGuAlK5\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">On top of the world with @laurei #lakedistrict #mountain #happy<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/jenni_2309\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Jenni Shaw<\/a> (@jenni_2309) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2018-08-28T10:49:22+00:00\">Aug 28, 2018 at 3:49am PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>It was just that she felt that, recently, I\u2019d mentioned a lot of engagements, marriages, pregnancies and births amongst my friends.<\/p>\n<p>This had led her to worry that everyone was entering a new and very different phase of their lives and that I was in danger of getting \u2018left behind.\u2019<\/p>\n<p>*Insert scratchy head emoji*<\/p>\n<p>Following several hasty assurances I was, indeed, very happy and in no way being left behind by my friends, I did start thinking about the challenge of making new friends and <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/solo\/travel\/solo-travel-easy-ways-meet-people-abroad\/\">meeting new people<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Then that little ideas lightbulb we all have in our heads lit up with a ping.<\/p>\n<p>Living in London can be a lonely existence \u2013 we Londoners don\u2019t have the best reputation in the friendliness stakes. I decided I was going to spend a week putting myself in situations I could meet new friends, in the hope that some may even become longer term friends.<\/p>\n<p>I set about making a plan for the following week and went to bed full of excitement for my little experiment. This is what happened.<\/p>\n<p><strong>MONDAY: SPINNING WITH STRANGERS<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a creature of habit and my weekly routine starts off, without fail, on a spin bike at 7am on a Monday.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been going to the same class for over a year and know everyone that goes; I know the instructor, the receptionist and the coffee shop guy, probably a bit too well.<\/p>\n<p>So I decided, this week, I was going to mix things up a little!<\/p>\n<p>I shunned my early start and signed myself up for the 7pm spin class \u2013 new instructor and a whole crowd of new people to meet. I headed to the studio with plenty of time so that I could sit and chat before the class and, sure enough, there were a few other keen beans who I struck up a conversation with.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14282 aligncenter\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Screen-Shot-2018-10-04-at-08.55.35-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"590\" height=\"589\" \/><\/p>\n<p>After a lovely chat, we had a good sweaty spin sesh and I said goodbye to my new found \u2018acquaintances\u2019 with a breezy, \u2018see you next week\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>Day one mission accomplished.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d spoken to some new people who seemed super nice and trotted home quite happy J (it would seem I now have to keep up the new 7pm spin slot though \u2013 bye bye early mornings!)<\/p>\n<p><strong>TUESDAY: COOKING AND CLASSMATES<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Having eased myself into my little experiment with a pretty tame challenge on day one, I was pretty eager to ramp up my efforts on Tuesday and get creative with my social life.<\/p>\n<p>In an effort to push myself out of my comfort zone, I trawled the internet for social events that I could go to, so I could meet some new people, and stumbled across a deal for an evening cookery class not too far from home.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14284 aligncenter\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Screen-Shot-2018-10-04-at-08.57.48-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"580\" height=\"593\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I had no idea what to expect (other than the promised feast of vegetarian delights) and rocked up to the cookery school 20 mins before the start of the class to scope out the scene and the people before getting stuck in.<\/p>\n<p>Everyone was so nice and, in a class of eight of us, there were two other people there alone, a group of three girlfriends and a lovely couple.\u00a0 We had a super fun evening, learning delicious, new recipes and then sitting down to eat our creations.<\/p>\n<p>I left the event part of a WhatsApp group through which we\u2019ve all promised to keep in touch and maybe meet up again.<\/p>\n<p>Day two = success!<\/p>\n<p><strong>WEDNESDAY: COFFEE SHOP CRAWLING<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I decided to do something a bit less structured with Wednesday, which was really going to push me out of my comfort zone (and quite possibly get me some pretty strange looks).<\/p>\n<p>I challenged myself to simply speak to a \u2018stranger\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>I knew that I was going to be out and about quite a lot so would have plenty of opportunities. First off, I tried the coffee shop scenario.<\/p>\n<p>I set myself up in my local coffee shop, on my laptop, next to a guy who seemed to be doing the same (and crucially had the same laptop).<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14283 aligncenter\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Screen-Shot-2018-10-04-at-08.57.13-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"589\" height=\"589\" \/><\/p>\n<p>After about an hour, I finally plucked up the courage to speak to him and asked to borrow his charger as a conversation starter.<\/p>\n<p>I then continued to talk to him about what he did, how come he was working from a coffee shop and of course \u2013 the weather!\u00a0 He was averagely receptive to my chat but not hugely keen and seemed to want to get on with his work.<\/p>\n<p>So, after about 20 mins of charger use, I packed my bag and moved on. Not my most successful endeavour, however, I still felt pleased that I\u2019d plucked up the courage to speak to him.<\/p>\n<p><strong>THURSDAY: FRIENDS OF FRIENDS<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>My Thursday plans already included going to a friends\u2019 birthday drinks in the evening, which I knew she\u2019d invited a lot of people too. Rather than just stick with my usual \u2018crew\u2019, I was going to chat to new people!<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Bj0XNAcgBMp\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Bj0XNAcgBMp\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Promotion celebration #Flashpack #promotion #celebrate #champagne<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/jenni_2309\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Jenni Shaw<\/a> (@jenni_2309) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2018-06-09T20:58:51+00:00\">Jun 9, 2018 at 1:58pm PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>I always think occasions like birthdays or weddings are a great opportunity to meet new and like-minded people because you\u2019re all there for a common cause, you\u2019ll have at least one thing in common!<\/p>\n<p>The drinks party was awesome and I spoke to loads of new people, people I\u2019ll definitely see again not least down to our common friendship with the birthday girl.<\/p>\n<p><strong>FRIDAY: JOINING THE DOGGY CLUB<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Friday\u2019s strategy involved a \u00a0\u2018prop\u2019 \u2013 a new dog.\u00a0 I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to have my own dog, but my flat and lifestyle don\u2019t lend themselves to full-time dog ownership.<\/p>\n<p>I do, however, seem to have a lot of friends with dogs. So, on Friday I borrowed one of my mates\u2019 four-legged friends and took him for a little walk. It\u2019s amazing how having a dog opens you up to chats with random other dog owners.<\/p>\n<p>I had quite a few lovely conversations and met some very cute dogs too \u2013 highlight being a 1- week old cocker spaniel called Sybil!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14281 aligncenter\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Screen-Shot-2018-10-04-at-08.54.46-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"589\" height=\"590\" \/><\/p>\n<p>This was a great way to spend a couple of hours but I\u2019m not sure there was much \u2018friend making\u2019 opportunity, maybe this is a longer-term strategy\u2026<\/p>\n<p><strong>SATURDAY: RUN BUDDIES<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve recently decided that I want to be a runner and, in my quest to become the next Paula Radcliffe, I\u2019ve started trying to do \u2018Park Run\u2019 on a Saturday morning.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Bl0EXDflknh\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"12\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Bl0EXDflknh\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Not going to let this stinky weather stop me trying out these new bad boys #run #raingoaway #adidas #letsdothis<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/jenni_2309\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_medium=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Jenni Shaw<\/a> (@jenni_2309) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2018-07-29T11:17:09+00:00\">Jul 29, 2018 at 4:17am PDT<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>There are loads of people at my local event and, as far as I can see, plenty of them come alone, which makes it the perfect opportunity for some chatting to strangers in <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/solo\/relationships\/stop-dating-connect-people-travel\/\">an effort to expand your social circle<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I rocked up to the start line, again a little bit early, in the hope that I could strike up some small talk before the run. Sure enough, I zeroed in on an unsuspecting girl who looked a little nervous and pretty friendly, only to discover it was her first time and she was, in fact, pretty scared.<\/p>\n<p>I took the opportunity to run with her and we chatted throughout and have planned to run it together again next week. Turns out running is another great way to make good friends.<\/p>\n<p><strong>SUNDAY: FLASH PACK HIKING<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Okay, so, Sunday\u2019s activity may, in fact, seem a little like cheating, I\u2019ll let you decide on that one. But I went on a Flash Pack Mini Experience in the form of a woodland hike followed by a pub lunch.<\/p>\n<p>Being a seasoned Flashpacker, I of course knew that this would be the IDEAL situation in which to <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/solo\/relationships\/how-to-meet-new-people\/\">meet new people<\/a>, as all Flashpackers are pretty awesome.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-14286 aligncenter\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Screen-Shot-2018-10-17-at-16.44.59-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"583\" height=\"587\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t disappointed:<\/p>\n<p>I spent a rather lovely Sunday afternoon <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.flashpack.com\/solo\/relationships\/single-travel-not-dating\/\">having a good time with 11 fabulous ladies<\/a>, walking in the countryside and refuelling with some yummy food. We left with each other\u2019s numbers and I have no doubt that I\u2019ll definitely see some, if not all of, these ladies again. I can definitely see some true friends coming out of this one.<\/p>\n<p>So that was my week of trying to meet new people.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s shown me there are loads of ways to make new, close friends and chat to strangers. But as one last parting gift from me to you, I\u2019ve listed five key lessons I learnt from my little experiment below:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Act confident and no-one will question you<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>I know I\u2019m always really drawn to people who exude confidence and therefore really try to do this myself, even when I\u2019m not feeling it. You&#8217;ll have a new group of friends in no time.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><strong>Most people are nice<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>One thing I discovered this week was that, actually, most people in the world are really nice and will chat right back to you if you\u2019re brave enough to strike up the convo.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><strong>People won&#8217;t think you&#8217;re weird for saying hi<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>A friendly hello is massively appreciated by many and no-one will think you\u2019re weird \u2013 most likely they\u2019ll be envious that you had the confidence to simply talk to people.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><strong>Putting yourself out there makes you feel good<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Following on from each of my interactions with new found acquaintances, I came away with a real feel good vibe, you know, like that feeling after a really good exercise class or sing song. Don&#8217;t feel uncomfortable, I really recommend it.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"5\">\n<li><strong>Never make assumptions<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>This is quite a big one but there is a definite tendency to make assumptions before speaking to people. 9 times out of 10, you\u2019re going to be wrong! I urge everyone to leave assumptions at the door and spend time start chatting to people.<\/p>\n<p>I think this experiment was rather successful, if I do say so myself. And I\u2019ll be reporting back to my Mum that I have, indeed, found some more potential friends that are without a ring on their finger or have an impending birth.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll be ever so pleased ;).<\/p>\n<p><em>Images: Jenni Shaw<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When your mum utters the words, \u201cDo you think you should maybe find some new&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":88,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9046,9032],"tags":[107,110,92,489,131,408,602,1029,1099,543,347,456,133,351],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14266"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/88"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14266"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14266\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14266"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14266"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sandbox.flashpack.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14266"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}